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| Posted: 05 Apr 2022 04:50 UTC | Post #1 |
| Lebrons Deck & Engine |
Registered Total Posts: 174 |
| Overcoming loneliness is achieving freedom. This is based on activity, first of all, labor and love (according to the theory of E. Fromm). The structure of loneliness includes subjectivity, self-regulation and self-actualization. This is what I propose to work with. I’ll say right away: you need to work (for you!), It will be difficult and painful, but over time it will be interesting and pleasant. You must clearly see the purpose for which you want to get rid of loneliness. Not a single psycho-correction can do without goal-setting and motivation. Consider how many options for the "prize", evaluate all the advantages and disadvantages. Calculate what will need to be sacrificed and what the goal will give you. Choose a landmark. Why do you want to get rid of loneliness? For what, not why. Actually, this is the first point in the fight against loneliness. Set realistic goals and conditions for interacting with people. Break down unrealistic ideas about people and relationships. In continuation of the above: find out your strengths and weaknesses, and then work with it. Conduct a personal diagnosis (identify the possible congenital preconditions for your loneliness). Finally meet your true self! Find out your character type, accentuations, temperament, stressful and favorable situations for you. Your innate features (there is something that we cannot change; you need to accept and stop torturing yourself). It is important to decompose exactly your loneliness (after all, you are unique, and therefore your loneliness is unique) on the shelves. Find out the reasons. What are they? External or internal? Permanent or situational? Stable or changeable? Fight your fears, anxieties, traumas (someone's death, divorce, separation from your mother in childhood, a difficult separation from a loved one, a forced flight), that is, the "roots" that keep you within loneliness. Everything that you identify with the help of techniques, analyze and decide what is stopping you. You need to find what has knocked you down and continues to hide somewhere in you and produce “toxinsâ€. And then work it out. Find out your psychological defense mechanisms and how to respond to stress, conflict, separation, and so on (you can also find test methods). Were these the mechanisms that led you to this state? If yes, then you need to change them. Try to remember when you first felt alone, what could have been the trigger, and how you have changed since then. Remember your “old†self, evaluate how you can return there (if that model I suited you). Speak all your thoughts, images, feelings. Try to visualize and structure them or express them in poetry, drawings, prose. Tame your instincts and exposure to public opinion, reinforce your own position and rationality of actions, according to the situation and your beliefs. Visit a psychotherapist if you cannot cope with the “pus†that has come out on your own. | |
| Posted: 05 Apr 2022 08:18 UTC | Post #2 |
| Jazzy Deck & Engine |
Registered Total Posts: 188 |
| My older sister has been divorced for two years and during this time occasionally finds a man for herself a couple of times. Usually these acquaintances chaotically took place somewhere in bars, but recently she has been frequenting the site https://ask.fm/profiles/tx/dallas/letter-a the most cooling Dallas guys are registered and supposedly waiting for her. Never before have we seen her like this - open, liberated, I'm not even afraid to call her sexy. From it and breathes readiness for sex. Her make-up is light as usual, but her clothes accentuate her perfect curves. Our parents are skeptical about this behavior, but don't say anything yet, watch how far she goes in her games. | |
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